Monday, February 1, 2010

Mom On Strike!

After a couple of weeks
of
whining about each meal
that's been prepared;
complaining even,
about which restaurants to go
for dinner;
and more obnoxious opinions
about take-out even--
I
have
had
it.

I didn't make dinner tonight.
When the 14yo asked me,
"what's for dinner?"
I told her she could make herself
anything she wanted.
"I'm not cooking dinner tonight.
Make your self a peanut butter n jelly sandwich."
Have eggs and toast."
Her eyes widened in shock.
Her mouth dropped open in disbelief:
"You can't do that! You always--well, that's,
uh, your job as a Mom!" she protested.

"I'm not a doormat.
And lately, noone has said my two favorite words:
THANK YOU.
So, no, I am not cooking dinner again
until I get some appreciation.
I'm taking Dad to Carl's Jr. when he gets home
and you kids can fend for yourselves tonight."

"Order Pizza then!" she refuted.
"Nope, even when I order take-out, you guys complain about
where I order it from. I'm not doing it."

She looked at me in disbelief
and went down to the kitchen.

She ordered Pizza herself.
Paid for it with her own
babysitting money.

I suggested to each of the kids
that they write a dinner menu out
for me,
with 10 suggestions on it each.
The Caboose asked if she could just write:
LASAGNA
down 10 times.
Nope.
Daisie wanted
Shrimp Scampi and Steak on there too.
Nope.
And not cold cereal
and corn dogs every night
either.
And whichever meal I make,
the person who suggested it
has to help prepare it
and clean up afterwards.
Period.

I'm planning on buying a few more loaves of bread
and bringing another couple of jars of peanut butter and jelly
up outta food storage.
It's gonna be a long week.

18 comments:

  1. Pb&j is a main staple around here. We eat it for breakfast, lunch or dinner. :)

    PS: Have you seen the post "Mothers, cathedrals, and invisibility" on the Diapers & Divinity blog? Hop over there when you get the chance. You won't be sorry.

    ((hugs))

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  2. Wow, you are serious. I am so impressed with your plan. Maybe with pbj as their only alternative they will be soooooo happy to prepare meals with you. Stick to your guns woman!

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  3. Sounds like a great idea to me! I've been known to set out the boxes of cold cereal with a gallon of milk and call the gang in for dinner! I'm certain there's something out the non cookers can prepare that will actually lead to a little culinary skill in the kitchen :)

    Kristin

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  4. It's that tough love we soemtiems dish out that truly makes us a "Mom". I've done the same thing and I've noticed a difference. Give them a week and they'll be begging you to cook!!!

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  5. LOVE IT!

    When Teagan hit a picky phase, I battled back by having her dictate to me a list of the foods she likes to eat. It's a pretty lengthy list, thankfully. I pretty much stick to it. And if she complains about the "plain green beans" on her plate, I can point to her list and remind her that she told me she likes plain green beans. I will make something unique from time to time. And since most of our meals are dictated by the list (which matches up with Dad's tastes, too)... a new item here or there doesn't have much impact.

    Your new plan is the next step! Once my kids are older... I'll have them do the same. It's a fantastic idea and I LOVE IT!

    And Momza?

    THANK YOU!

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  6. LOVE you so much! I can just picture Daisie's face! I love that she ordered pizza and paid for it on her own. Mine are learning that if they complain one peep (a sigh, a face, a "yuck") then their plate is taken and they are excused. Oh the wailing and gnashing!

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  7. You know, my mom didn't cook very much when I was growing up. I remember her saying several times, "Hey, I got sick of you guys complaining about everything. So I stopped cooking."
    There was many a night we ate cereal or just plain ole' peanut butter and honey mixed in a bowl. LOL!
    But I love your idea. I'll have to remember it!

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  8. Stand by your guns and make 'em sweat a little, Momza. I'm rootin' for ya!

    =)

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  9. Thank you for making me laugh. I needed that!! So I had a cousin who went on strike--seriously. She made signs and picketed her house and everything. A TV station even came down and covered it. Pretty funny. I am not sure it made a difference, but I am sure there were a lot of mothers cheering for her. :-)

    Good luck with your week.

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  10. You go girl !!!
    I did this a few times when good 'ol dependable Mom was taken too much for granted. They survived and I read a book instead. Appreciation flowed back in just a few day later and all was forgiven.

    It was really fun for the kids when I got tired of clothes ( dirty and clean ) making a mess all over their rooms. As soon as I realized clean clothes I had just washed, folded and put away back in the laundry with the dirty ones, if the kid was old enough, they started doing their own laundry !!!

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  11. Good for you! I've told my oldest before to go make himself a sandwich. But I'm pretty sure I'd be sorry if I sent the younger boys in the kitchen to get what they want.

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  12. Sounds like a great plan! You go, Momza!

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  13. you go girl! Sometimes it takes a drastic move to get our little ones to see the whole picture.
    Roxanne

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  14. @Everyone: Thanks for your encouragement!

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  15. Hey, when you're done shaping up your family, maybe you can come work on mine. I'm feeling the pain of the "ewww I don't like its" too. Making a 30-day menu is on my list of to do's for this weekend. But I know the only way my kids (ok, my boys) will be satisfied is if it has an endless rotation of corndogs, chicken nuggets, spaghetti and grilled cheese.

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  16. Awww Honeygirl,

    I am with ya sista. I googled the words "Mom on Strike" because today I had had enough.

    When my 19 year old said "stop nagging me about cleaning the kitchen". He said that "there is nothing worse than me nagging him to bleach the counter tops". And when my 15 year old said this morning "give me some lunch money, cuz my account’z empty, I was done, done, done. That is when I made a large poster! A very large poster, which reads " Mom on Strike"

    No more cooking, cleaning, rides, money, no new shoes ( my 15 year old has a hole in his shoes), no computer access, laundry, paying cell phone bills, no more wiping your rear ends…and on, and, on, and on!

    This Mama is on strike until further notice.

    I demand respect in the form of help and kind politeness, a clean home, and general respect. When I ask for something to be done, I expect a " sure Mom, I’d love to".

    Ask not what your Mama can do for you, but ask what you can do for your mama!!!

    My 15 year old came home today and said that I owe him money (true). I told him that I am on strike and until my demands are made, all monies owed are on hold. Everything is on hold. That includes helping my 17 year old son plan and complete is Eagle Scout Project (he turns 18 in 6 weeks).That means no rides to snowboarding, that means nada.

    Oh and to spice things up a bit, any clothing or other items left laying around will quickly be taken to the local DI (a kind of Salvation Army). Any dirty dishes left un rinsed will be taken to their bedrooms during the day and placed on their beds!

    Did I mention that I am done?

    It took a lot of years to get to this place in my life, and now that I am here, don't mess with mama!

    I will feed and care for my 10 year old daughter. But other than that.....

    Did I mention that i am done?

    Lots of you other Mamas are way nicer than me... I am not even putting food out. They can figure it out on their own. I am not even grocery shopping. I have food in my storage in the basement!

    Thanks for your post and thanks for listening... I feel so much better..

    Now.... if you will excuse me, I am headed off to dinner by myself at my kids favorite rib restaurant!

    Have a fantastic day Mamas!

    Micki
    micki@oliveoildesserts.com

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  17. @Micki: How's it going over there?

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  18. I know the frustration...I just published a hilarious children's story called When Mommy Went on Strike. It helps children understand the value of teamwork and taking responsibility in a clever setting that is enjoyable for the whole family. If you would like more information, please visit my website at http://www.jaimesewell.com

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