Last night I got a phone call from Dean's case worker,
Blake, from the agency that is over the host home providers.
First off, she tells me Dean is fine.
Which was welcomed news,
because of everything that's been going on lately.
BUT,
there've been some developments
that are going to affect his placement.
You know,
the one that we so love and are so grateful for?--
yeah, that one.
Turns out, that while Dean was here over Christmas,
the host home provider took in a young man for respite care--
and his needs are different than Dean's--
he is a registered sex-offender.
And he cannot have any children's movies, music,
or access to children in the home.
They have to put alarms on doors and windows,
frost their windows as well,
and all of this is not appropriate for Dean's environment.
But the hosthome provider is willing to do all of this
because the State pays more for the sex offender's care.
And the client himself, is a tiny young man,
he is docile and plays videogames.
That equals an easier day-to-day life
for the hosthome.
Dean is an active young man--
participating in Special Olympic Sports
and community activities.
He doesn't play video games.
So, Blake said, it looks like Dean's going to need
another home.
Hearing this news,
I choked up.
Not again.
My heart sank.
We just got him moved in.
He was happy there.
We liked the hosthome provider.
I felt so deeply saddened by the news.
But in the midst of this conversation,
I felt peaceful
and the words
"It's Time."
came to my mind.
"It's time to bring him home."
Which I interpreted as Colorado Springs.
So before we hung up,
I told Blake that I'd like to check things out down here
and I'd get back to her by Monday.
I hung up feeling relief, actually.
Peaceful, hopeful, relief.
I got the numbers for the agencies here
called and left information and messages
and then I told the family what's going on.
Every one is in agreement that it'd be better
for Dean
and me
and all of us
to have him live close by.
So this morning,
I got a call from one of the agencies.
The guy was awesome.
He said I can start interveiwing possible host home providers
as early as next week,
and that this process should be relatively seamless!
I am feeling so good about this!
Then,
it jut got better--
I got a call back from another Agency...
and it was from the gal who did the intake enrollment for all of
Dean's services way back in 2005!
She'd left the agency in 2005 to go home and be a Mom
to her new baby,
had another baby,
and just came back to the Agency last fall!
She said when she got in the office today and heard my voice,
she wondered if it was really me and after looking up
the information she had on Dean-she saw all of the records were
in her handwriting and she said,
"We've come full circle!"
Knowing she is going to be my partner in this process--
she knows me
she knows my Dean--
to have someone familiar involved
is truly a blessing.
And unless you've been thru this,
you may not be able to appreciate the sweetness
of this tender mercy,
but take my word for it,
I couldn't be happier!
I know Dean will be grateful to be closer
to us,
and no more driving 2 hours each way
to see him!
We'll be able to have him over more often,
and
I feel like Heavenly Father's directing
this part of Dean's life.
It's Time.
We won't have him much longer,
and it's just time to bring him in closer.
God loves His children.
He knows us, loves us and watches over each of us.
Oh, I'm so happy for you. Wow. What a wonderful blessing. When looking back at the last few months and his housing problems from this perspective, doesn't it look different?
ReplyDeleteDawn what a wonderful bit of news. I know that the Lords hand is in this. I couldn't be happier for you.
ReplyDeleteRoxanne.
Don't you just love those "tender mercies"? The Lord does know what we need long before we ever do.
ReplyDeleteSo glad this is working out so well for all of you.
I am so full of joy for you! This is all wonderful, such an incredible blessing, and indeed it does seem like God is involved - as of course God has been all along. Happy days! :-)
ReplyDeleteI was so saddened for you, and then thrilled! yay!
ReplyDeleteYOu know, all of your posts about Dean leave me so choked up. Mostly, I think, because I really can feel your love for him. How blessed that boy is to have a Mama like you.
ReplyDeleteWonderful news! So happy for you and Dean.
ReplyDeleteTo feel crushed and then elated all in one post for you all...it made my day to hear good news at the end. I am praying that a wonderful place close by will be in Dean's near future. It is so true that people are placed in our lives to give comfort and help...you are twice blessed to have that lady who knows you all and Dean back in your lives again !!!
ReplyDeleteHugs,
Nonna
What a blessing, Dawn. I love how the Lord works...It doesn't always make sense in the moment, but it always does make sense in the end!
ReplyDeleteThis story is a testimony-stirrer, for sure!
=)
I am soo soo happy! In the midst of adversity come our greatest blessings! Isn't it amazing what blessings we receive when we are willing to trust and wait and be at peace. I really hope he ends up in a home that you like even better!! That would be a totally amazing thing.
ReplyDeleteThanks goodness for the peace Heavenly Father knows how to bring! I am so sorry we missed you while we were there, the kids got sick and we stuck to Grandma's house. I am sorry that this has been such a crazy few months with Dean. I hope it settles soon. I am glad that you find comfort! we are praying for ya! love ya!
ReplyDeleteI cried when I read this. I don't know Dean's story, but I too have a special needs child and my heart just "knew" everything you were saying. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteWhat a rollercoaster (but the whole sex offender thing--ick!) I'm glad it's working out so well and that you'll have Dean close now.
ReplyDeleteMy heart was hanging low as I started reading this. I felt betrayer for you. How could this happen when you had just got him settled?
ReplyDeleteNow I feel happy for all of you. What a wonderful thing it will be to have your boy nearby - I really do think it is a tender mercy of a loving Father.
My heart just sunk when I started to read this, but then I was so relieved at the ending. I am so happy for you. It will be so nice for you to spend more time with him and such a blessing to have someone working with you who truly cares for you and Dean. Best wishes!!
ReplyDeleteMomza that is so wonderful! I can't believe all that Dean has been through. It has to be so hard. Hopefully this time will be SO much easier.
ReplyDeleteThat's amazing that she knows Dean!
I'm happy for you and your family!
That was a great post.
what am amazing change of direction! I am glad for your heart and the joy/peace/hope it will bring you and your family! so glad for dean... and you.
ReplyDeleteOne of these days, when we're in the same room, I'd like to learn more about Dean and the choices you've made in his behalf over the years. I'm so pleased that you're so happy about this situation, Dawn! I see your love and genuine concern for Dean's well-being come through in everything you write about him. Keep us posted!
ReplyDeleteI'm SO glad for you! And for you to think of us during your stressful time is so amazing too! I love tender mercies! I know that we can find them WHEREVER and WHENEVER we look. I just finished a book called "Divine Signatures" by Gerald Lund and it is FULL of manifestations of the love Heavenly Father has for us. Thanks for sharing your joys and your pains! ♥♥♥
ReplyDeleteGreat news and great confirmation of the spirit. I am happy for you.
ReplyDeleteBeee-U-tiful! I am so happy for you! Isn't it crazy the crooked road that leads us to where we need to be!
ReplyDeleteHUGS!
I would like you to donate a swatch of flannel for the baby quilt in Dean's name. Deets will be on the blog.